Emotions

Once there lived an old man who kept all different kinds of animals. But his grandson was particularly intrigued by two tigers that lived together in one cage. The tigers had different temperaments; one was calm and self-controlled whilst the other was unpredictable, aggressive, violent, and vicious.

“Do they ever fight, Grandfather?” asked the young boy.

“Occasionally, yes they do,” admitted the old man.

“And which one wins?”

“Well, that depends on which one I feed the most.”

Being able to control your emotions depends in part on how much you ‘feed’  a particular emotion; on how much we focus on what we are afraid of, enraged by,  or depressed about. But it’s more than that. Good ‘emotional intelligence’ requires we understand our own moods, recognizing when and why we are upset and having very real strategies in place to be able to influence the way that we feel.
So if you ever find yourself tossed around helplessly on a hysterical tumultuous sea of emotion and want some ways to at least adjust your sails, the better to steer your own course toward calmer waters.

Love and Loss

Steve Jobs gave this as his second story of his Commencement Address at Stanford University on June 12, 2005.
Love and Loss
I was lucky. I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation - the Macintosh - a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started?
Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.
I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me - I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.
I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.
During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT.
I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.
I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple.It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers.
Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking.
Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.
Steve Jobs
1955-2011

Law of Attraction

                         Understand the Law of Attraction

We all work with one infinite power.Everything in the universe is made of energy...even us!We are like magnets...and Energy attracts...like Energy.What ever is going on in our mind...is what we are attracting in our life..Right Now.

You become and attract... what you think about most.The most powerful and potent form of energy known in the universe is...thought.Every thought has a frequency...thoughts send out magnetic energy that attracts like for like energy......Here lies the challenge...thoughts become things!

Most people think about what they don't want...so by default they attract more of the same!So if your thoughts are attached to strong emotions(good or bad)..that speeds up the creation process.Remember you attract your thoughts..so choose your thoughts carefully!

(Have you ever noticed...those that speak most of illness have it...and those that speak most of prosperity have it.)

Thoughts cause feelings...so what ever you are feeling right now is a perfect reflection of what's in the process of becoming!And you get exactly what you are feeling so happy feelings will attract more happy circumstances.

You can begin to feel whatever you want right now...and the universe will corresponds to the nature of your song,And whatever you focus on with your thoughts and feelings....is what you will attract into your life.

Remember...you create your own universe as you go along...so it's important to feel good.Life is amazing when you consciously apply the law of attraction.The universe likes speed.So don't delay..don't second guess..don't doubt..

When the opportunity,impulse or intuition is there...ACT!And the universe will rearrange itself accordingly...just for you!

Being grateful...will create more things in your life to be grateful for.

                       VISUALIZE!REHEARSE YOUR FUTURE.

Visualize what you want and feel the feelings of having it already.Focus only on the having the end goal and leave the rest to the universe.

Scientists have now prove that a positive thought is hundred times more powerful than a negative thought.Every time you have a negative thought...immediately think of a happy memory  or someone you love.

For no one else can think or feel for you it's all you..only you!

Are your constant thoughts worthy of you?

Don't waste energy on negative thoughts...only focus on what you want.And take your attention away from thinking about what you don't want.Only think about what brings you joy as this will raise your vibration straight away.Then commit to staying in a high vibration & set a goal so big it will blow your mind if you achieve it.

Visualize already having it everyday for 5 minutes....for you are the only one who creates your reality you really are!Remember...thoughts become things so always think good things.Take action right now to enjoy your life...set yourself free..you're amazing...you really are!

What ever you want in life Health,Wealth & Happiness.Your wish is my command.

Love......

Researchers (Hatfield & Rapson, 1995) have broken up love into two main types:

• Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions.
• Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.

Now one of the best known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.

The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are:

Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.

Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).

Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.

Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.

Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love:

Is there love at first sight?

This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.

Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?

This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.

Can their be love without sex?

Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion.

Why doesn't romantic love last?

Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends.

Infatuation vs. Love

Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.

Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."

Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."

Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning.

The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for.

A Crash Course for Success

* Play to win and not to lose.
* Learn from other people's mistakes.
* Associate with peoples of high moral character.
* Give more than you get.
* Don't look for something for nothing.
* Always think long term.
* Evaluate your strengths and build on them.
* Always keep the larger picture in mind when making a decision.
* Never compromise your integrity.

Importance Of Attitude

We all know the biblical story of David and Goliath.Goliath was a giant of a man.He struck fear in everyone's heart.One day,a 17-year-old shepherd boy came to visit his brothers and asked."Why don't you stand up and fight the giant?" The brother were terrified of Goliath and they replied."Don't you see he is too big to hit?" But David said,"No, he is not too big to hit,he is too big to miss."The rest is history.We all know what happened.david killed the giant with the slingshot.Same giant,different perceptions.

Our attitude determines how we look at a setback.To a positive thinker,attitude can be a stepping-stone to success.To a negative thinker,it can be a stumbling block.